
There are lots of ideas out there for creating a proper and perfect tea party. This post will not be full of those sorts of ideas because, if you are the mother of young children, you may not have the energy to host an intricate tea party and then clean it all up!

Our family has enjoyed many tea parties over the years. When the children were young and my energy and money was low, even a simple party seemed to be a big effort! Now, my older children are tea party experts and create all sorts of fancy goodies and decorations for their friends as well as for their younger siblings. It is a joy to see how those simple parties when they were young prepared my girls to creatively bless others with fancy grown-up teas!
If you are reading this with a toddler on your hip and a baby tugging at your blouse, here are some simple short-cuts for a fun party for your little ones.
Purchase Little Debbie Snack cakes or something similar.
Oh, you don’t usually buy this type of junk food, you say? You’ll find them wherever Hostess Twinkies are found (I usually find them on the end of the snack aisle). They are cheap and cute and come two in a little package (disclaimer; they have absolutely no nutritional value and probably have a shelf life of about 1000 years). Unwrap them and pile them on a pretty plate in the middle of your table.
Can’t run to the store (or don’t have the energy to)? Squish a dollop of peanut butter between two graham crackers and sprinkle some candy sprinkles on top of the peanut butter…or spread cream cheese on celery and add a bowl of raisins to the table.
The Tea Party
I had a little tea party
This afternoon at three.
‘Twas very small-
Three guests in all-
Just I, myself and me.
Myself ate all the sandwiches,
While I drank up the tea;
‘Twas also I who ate the pie
And passed the cake to me.
~Jessica Nelson North
Of course, let your children dress up! Again, get creative with what you have…perhaps your little man just needs a hat and a mustache drawn above his lip to make him feel grown-up. Different clothes can bring out the giggles in even the most introverted child!
Make Cambric tea. Also known as Silver Tea, my oldest loved this as a little girl (not for the taste but for the name). Laura Ingalls Wilder recalls drinking it as a child. It is simply watered down tea with plenty of milk and sweetening to make little girls feel grown-up as they drink their tea with their elders. Of course, in this day and age, drinking tea may not be very special for some girls so having it in a special cup may make it more exciting.
Tea cups can be found at thrift stores (if you don’t feel like trusting your children to be careful with yours). Teach the children “old fashioned manners” ie.,to put their pinkies out as they drink from their tea cups and sit up very very straight.
For older children who can write or draw, let them cut out little rectangles and make their own “calling cards.” Talk to them about going calling and leaving cards at their visit. Teach them company manners by having them knock on the door and politely ask if you are available for “a call.”
Remember, preparing is half the fun. You can enjoy crackers and water together and create delightful memories as long as you enter into your child’s world!

Just curious: what age do you think this begins to be appropriate/fun for a child? I have a two-year-old daughter. Already she loves to wear dresses and drink tea (because that’s what I do), but I am not sure she would have the patience to sit down and “have a tea” with me. When did you begin doing this with yours?
Great question, Anne! It’s been awhile since I’ve had a two year old so I appreciate you asking this.
At that age, I would probably have a little table set up in the kitchen or a few tea cups on the kitchen counter and I would “announce” that we are doing something special together. Then, after she is dressed, we might enjoy just a few minutes of tea and a few nibbles of a goodie. Because two year olds are not known for long attention spans, I would not worry too much if she wanders off or gets distracted pouring and re-pouring the tea!
After a short tea party, a two year old might dearly love being allowed to pull up a high stool to the kitchen sink and “do the dishes”. This is when a little plastic tea set is great to have.
Although the “experts” emphatically proclaim that parents need to get down on the child’s level to really “bond” with the child, the Bible says we are to teach our children as we go about the business of living. Deut. 6:7 tells us, “Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up..”
Although God is talking about teaching the things of God in that manner, I have found that it applies to everything we do with our children. In other words, we are to include our children in OUR world and focus on teaching them as we go about our day.
A tea party is a fun little training ground for the day when our children will be all grown up, so, even a two year old can “help” set the little table, carry the crackers, sit for a few minutes and partake, and then, clean up! If you are talking and interacting with her during that time…that’s the important part! She will find great satisfaction in the entire process because she is being a “helper” to mommy and being treated as though she were a big girl who is becoming more capable every day…which will go a long way toward overcoming that very natural and normal frustration of being a curious and determined-to-learn two year old!
More than you ever wanted to know…I am sure! Thanks for visiting!
Jill
Thank you so much for the detailed reply! It was such an encouragement to me, since I have been pondering the balanced between “bonding” with my daughter through special set-aside time vs. bonding while going about my daily tasks and incorporating her in them. Thank you for these pearls of wisdom about doing the latter (which, frankly, is all I *can* do most days anyway!) I will be copying your response so I can refer back to it for future encouragment later… Easter blessings to you!
Jill,I have finally subscribed to your blog and the tea party post jumped out at me.
Tiny “coffee” cups are common here in Saudi,and despite the weight, I purchased 2 adorable pink versions of the 6 cups and saucers to bring back as Christmas gifts this year (ironic….Saudi….Christmas!!!).
Anyway, my grand daughters loved them and I bought a matching teapot from the thrift store to add to the collection.
Even without food and costumes,the fun they had making,pouring and serving was a joy to be part of.
I plan to keep adding to their sets as I find appropriate pieces, which adds to the significance of the gift,being something their Aussie Mima created,who of course grew up drinking tea from 4 years of age.
How precious that your granddaughters can enjoy cups from Saudi, Heather! What fun! The cups will probably last much longer than the cute but poorly made tea sets for little girls that abound in the U.S. and your girls will have a set that they can always use
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Thank you for subscribing to my blog! May 2013 be a blessed and joy filled year for you and your family.
Jill